Dating your best guy friend
And so I decided that the very best thing I could do was to give it a shot and see what happened--in part because I also felt fairly confident, upon reflection, that my friendship with Jake was strong enough to survive just about anything. " And indeed, it was not.)Still, the break-up--understandable and inevitable though it was--hurt. After all, if I couldn't make it work with this person I cared so deeply about, and got along so well with, how in the hell was I ever going to make It took a few months before Jake and I began to hang out again.
But then one afternoon, after we'd both (independently) moved out of D. to return to New York, I was getting my hair cut at my old favorite place--Antonio Prieto--when it dawned on me that I was just down the street from Jake's new office.
You're into him too, and now you're actually trying to make a relationship happen.
There will be crazy highs, but you could also stumble upon a few rough spots that are tricky to navigate.
This one already knows what you look like without makeup, that you pee a little when you laugh too hard, and that you cry with happiness when you see pictures of weird animal friendships.
Best of all, those quirks are probably what made him fall in the first place. As in, all your flaws, your demons, exactly what happened in all of your past relationships.
If you're crushing on your guy pal, there are tons of ways to make him notice you as more than a friend. Work on spending quality time with him to strengthen your bond. There's always a chance he doesn't feel the same, but as long as you're prepared for that possibility, go for it!
have taught us anything, it’s that after years of looking for Mr.
Right, some girls end up with their best guy friend.
But he told me he'd been mulling it over for a while, and he was serious about wanting to give things a go. And not having Jake in my life seemed unimaginably painful. Maybe incompatible phermones are to blame--who knows?
At the same time, after considering it for a minute or two, I realized that if I give it a try, my reluctance could create a weird dynamic which could very well do serious damage to the friendship--maybe as much as a failed romance would. --because there doesn't seem to be much else to explain it.